May 31, 2006

  • Please read my reviews. (commenting is implied [well, no longer implied now that I said that - but sort of implied because it's in parentheses] and appreciated)

    at dawn from the ferry between the North and South Islands of New Zealand

    On Sunday, Esther and I had a great time at Six Flags Great America with awesome weather and short wait times for all the rides.

    While we were there, at some point, I asked myself why I was teasing her so much. Teasing her about getting wet on the water rides, teasing her about dripping ice cream - practically anything could've come across as teasing but I tried to keep myself in check. Why is that? Then on Loveline last night as I was going out to buy her a surprise present with her own money (), Dr. Drew talked about how men use teasing as a form of endearment. We do it with our closest buddies, and we do it when we meet new guys and want to get along with them. Actually, how much teasing the other guy dishes/takes is a good indication of how well they know each other and how close of friends they are.

    Girls aren't like that. And it's hard to shut down such a tried-and-true method of friendship. So I'm working on it, and I think it gets easier for her as time goes on. I mean, she's a sharp cookie, but I don't want to torture someone either when I'm just trying to lighten the mood.

    Thoughts? As a girl, have you felt hurt from a guy who probably didn't know any better? Guys? You know what I mean?

    Brent routinely puts into words what is still lightyears out on my own mental awareness horizon. (this)

Comments (15)

  • My family thrives on teasing....never mean-spirited, but intense.  So I've been ok with teasing for a long time, and as I recall, MY teasing of YOU was often a point of contention, and I had to learn how to be more sensitive, remember?   Maybe that just meant you didn't like me enough to want me to be endearing...

    I waited a whole hour before posting this reply.  Aren't you proud?

  • My advice is to never tease a woman about her appearance or her character.  Most find it more insulting than endearing.

  • Do not tease, hit, point at, laugh at, or annoy girls. And most importantly, let them do all of these things to you. Double standard!! Just kidding, I don't really think this. And I'm glad Esther can put up with you, that's always important in a relationship. Although, I've never heard of a SHARP cookie... ouch!

    I'll see you tonight!!

    I didn't know you graduated with your brother. Interesting.

  • See Kristen!?!?! "A good indication of how well they know each other and how close of friends they are." My cyborgian hoser-friend nailed it on the head. That's why I pick on Mr. Crawford so much (ie-all the time)

  • listen to the above.. they are very smart.

    and if a friendship is not defined then lines can be crossed even when unintended..:o)

  • Well I like it when you tease me if I'm already pretty secure in whatever you're teasing me about. It's only hurtful when it's something I'm self-conscious about - and I know you're aware of most of those hot buttons by now. I'm trying to get better at communicating when I'm feeling particularly sensitive (Jewel: I'm sensitive and I'd like to stay that way). You're not perfect - and neither am I, sometimes we step on each other, or poke each other to a point of irritation... but we're getting better at heading off those situations before they become full-blown train wrecks. I've been repeatedly hurt by other guy friends though who never caught when it was time to shut up, but part of that wisdom just comes with being open with each other and in time people learn one another's sensitivities. I had a fabulous time at Six Flags, and left without any hurt feelings.. just fun times (oh and a sweet season pass). =)

  • But for those other things, it's important to either shelf those sore spots or, like you said, communicate to them that they're causing damage. You don't have to limit that kind of direct communication to only your closest relationships, and I think it helps to be good at letting people you know much less that they're hurting you. =)

  • You commented on my Xanga at the same time I was commenting on your MySpace....does that make us geeks?  Ummm...yeah.

  • aaaaaaand.....I didn't skip over any songs.  But all the songs on that playlist are emo-y, etc., so they'd all sorta fit anywhere

    You do stand by me.  Amazingly.  I could go on, but....I got a reputation to protect, yano.

  • That teasing concept for guys is really interesting.  No wonder I get teased so much...

  • Wow, now that you say this, my significant other is way more considerate and aware of not teasing me, but my step dad drives me INSANE with it... My dad does too... maybe it's an OLDER guy thing... LOL...

    I just inferred that you're old. I'm sorry. You two are too freaking adorable for your own good, for the record.

  • dr drew our relationship guru...(i secretly listen to him)  truth be told there are very few men who are allowed to tease me and jack, jake and harlow.  everybody does not have permission to go there. what i have observed and and personally experienced it is a form of famiilarity and not everyone should be not be that familiar with you... i do like it when those 3 tease me, because it does bring that comfort of being well known and loved by those i have trusted and that love me above and beyond.

  • The Fray. Definitely check them out.

  • Yeah, I've noticed that... doesn't seem to bother me too much -- everyone these days has something they must do to make themselves stand out in some form.

    Also, very interesting! I'm glad they did.

  • You'll be there tomorrow, right Nick???? :)

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