March 30, 2005
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So I had a most interesting conversation tonight....it went like this:
I had said: A social life helps in meeting people but not necessarily in finding people.
Clearly, I have a hyperactive social life, but my experience is that of so many but so few. I'm going on date after date...hanging for hours
with many different people....sitting at bars even....I'm picking up friends
like there's no tomorrow! But I'm not even close to finding
"someone"....which is fine.....but there's not much
in the way of kindred spirit friendships forming.Even if I found "someone"
I'm not going to "start a relationship". "But" I would
"use" fewer "apostrophes" **when I can** But I need people so badly for my own
mental health. I can't just walk away and have things
improve.Which prompted this from my friend: tons of acquaintences, few friends, and
hardly any deeper relationships.That pegs me perfectly. So how do you feel alone,
or lonely... I mean, how could you, right? You have
so many people around you! No, no, no... You don't understand. I guess,
I don't form those best-friend relationships that others might. I never
have. With a limited amount of time and energy, I would never trade in having a large circle of friends for a small close-knit circle. Why? I think I know...My best connections are with other guys. That's
where the long-term friendships are that stand the test of time.
Seriously, in a heterosexual way, we care about each other. With those
of the female gender, though, things tend to ebb and flow a lot more.
Say what you want about the nature of women, but I think the key
regarding forming close relationships is this: there's a seductive nature to connecting with someone of the
opposite sex.It works both ways. If you get closer, you're
drawn to the person. If you're drawn to the person, you get closer.
Until I find a lifetime mate, I'm resigned to forming healthy casual
relationships with girls. Which is fine, I guess. But it'd be nice to
have something stronger. Until then, I will thank God for being in my
life. Drink chocolate milk to excess. Post the updates.
Comments (4)
This is one of my favorite posts of yours. I agree completely,.
Why thank you.
It still seems to be only half the thought, but then again, I can never get the whole deal on paper!
hey it was good to talk to ya .. and i don't mind being "one among many" lol.. talk to ya soon =)
Now that just makes me look bad! I'm at a loss for words... But I do know it was fun talking to you, too. You'll never find me waking up at 5:30a...wait a sec. I was checking out LiveJournals at 6:00a... What is wrong with me?
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